Red flags for dating a man
This can be cute in small doses, but it’s not cute if he’s such a baby that he won’t control his spending, throws tantrums, or won’t move out of his parents’ house.
So, the best we can do is equip ourselves with clarity—what we want and what we don’t want.
It doesn’t matter if they cheated, lied, or deceived you in any way. That’s how an abuser keeps the abused around, by messing with them emotionally and psychologically.
If your significant other is abusing you, making you cover yourself so no one sees bruises, or is telling you to not tell anyone about their abuse, whether it is sexual, physical, or emotional, you should run. Again, there is never a good excuse for abusive behavior. Are you always with your significant other but they refuse to introduce you to their friends and family, and if they do, do they just call you a friend? So, the question is, are you okay with being used by someone who treats you like a dirty secret and less of a human being? Also, imagine how many other people your significant other has lied to in the same way? Dump your secret lover and move on to someone who is proud to say that you are all theirs! Do you go out of your way to make time for them and they always have something else going on or don’t prioritize you in the same way?
Staying in the relationship can lead to abuse or trouble with the law, and no one wants that.
Unless it’s in physical self-defense, there is never a good reason to hit someone else. If your significant other is being sexually coercive, and then trying to make it up to you with gifts and kind words, that doesn’t mean you’re not being abused.
Have you talked to them about it and they’ve done nothing to rectify the matter? You may not be the only secret boyfriend/girlfriend. Do you feel alone in your relationship, as if you’re in a relationship with yourself?
If you feel sad when you think about the relationship or are wondering why it’s not going the way you would like, then that’s a sign that it’s time to move on.
Do they laugh at your dreams and goals telling you that they are stupid or that you should focus on something else?
Guys who talk about chivalry often do so because they’re Nice Guys™ and they don’t see women as people.
Rather, they see women as sex boxes that they must please in order to get sex to fall out.
You deserve someone who is willing to move mountains to make you feel special and make time for you.
Sometimes family members can see when someone is wrong for you before you even know yourself.